The Pussy Pride Project

The pussy pride project is another one of Molly's daily kiss' excellent memes and statements.  It's chief aim is to get women to feel proud of their genitals and break taboos around female genital appearance. All that's asked of participants is a brief description and explanation of their feelings and, if they are comfortable enough, images may be used.

Review: iGino One

The iGino one was a crowd funded toy, and has gathered a fair bit of interest in the sex toy community.

This is what the box looks like:

I am fairly late to the party with my ownership of this toy, so there are a fair few reviews out there already for this toy. SubReiSkyeM has done an excellent review of this product at her blog, Thoughts of a growing sub

 At a glance: 

I didn't really get on with this toy, despite my best efforts.  The vibrations were not right for me, my theory on this is that it is because they are high frequency.  The review mainly focuses on partner sex as this is what the toy is marketed for, although I have used it solo and include a little bit of information on that.  There's a few drawbacks of this toy through design choices as well which makes it feel like it should not be in the "luxury sex toy" category in which it is marketed.  In the review I compare it to my favorite partner sex toy, the Lovehoney mains powered wand

Main review is after the jump

The Perks of Being Single

It’s sometimes seen that being single is sucky and just wrong.  I must admit when i broke up with S I was worried about being single again and having to do things on my own. I'm still healing and taking time to be me again, but there’s some things that are making me see it’s not all bad.

Leftover pizza

Who doesn't love pizza for breakfast the next day – now a possibility for me.  I don’t have to deal with another person’s diet or food schedule.  I can cook what I want and go out for meals when I want to, without having to drag a reluctant partner along.

Not having to beg for sex.

my sex life with S wasn't too bad, but it was more on his terms than mine due to him having the lower sex drive.  Asking and wanting with nothing to show for it just upset me so much I gave up, and started resenting him.  Partner sex is awesome, but not so much if you know that even if you ask you will just end up masturbating.  My sex drive seems to be higher now than when I was in a relationship, probably because there’s no fear of rejection.

Sleeping as much as you want.

I don’t seem to sleep well when sharing a bed.  I need a lot of space and I tend to just go until I can’t any more.  Trying to sleep on someone else’s schedule was annoying, as well as having them starfish all over me.  There’s also lots of lie ins for me now, and lots of afternoon naps.

More time for my interests

There were things I liked that S didn't, and vice versa.  It was usually me that made the sacrifice of my interests rather than him, so much so that it became a major issue.  We watched his programmes, listened to his music and played the games he wanted to.  This went beyond the give and take of a normal relationship, and I felt myself feeling lethargic and just giving up.  I'm single now and can indulge in my hobbies with the spare time I have.

Being able to be me.

I have disabilities and can’t do things that others can.  S never really understood this, especially with the chronic fatigue and clumsiness that comes with dyspraxia.  It always enraged me that he wouldn't do things like take shortcuts that I needed to keep myself happy and healthy, despite me explaining why.  Now I'm single I can do what I want, and am generally healthier than when I was in the last few months of my relationship, whether that’s because of the stress of it failing being lifted, or from making sure to put my needs first again.

Flirting

As I'm single I can talk to and be flirty with who I want without feeling any guilt or loyalty.  I'm much more confident in having more than one prospective date at a time, something I wouldn't have been when I was younger.  I feel happy talking to the sexy junior doctor, while having the option of going to dinner with the IT geek I met last week.  This seems so much easier now that I have had a relationship and know what I want for myself for the future and have gotten better at communicating that to others. Of course, there's lots up in the air at the moment with things, but I'm having fun!

So there are things that I miss, like cuddles and having someone to just do day to day things with, but it’s not all bad!  The things I see now as positive might change as I deal with the emotions and fallout of splitting up, but I feel positive that I will get through this pretty soon.

Single Again.

Me and S have split up.  There's never really been the whole "we are over" defining point, so I'm still not sure when it happened.  All I know is I'm single and the break up is proving difficult.

I don't want to be nasty about him, or be immature in my handling of it.  This seems to be the main thing that's causing problems at the moment.  S is not as mature as me, he's not as hopeful ( or, most likely, naive) about us remaining friends.  There's a lot of social isolation that goes on through a break up, and this is hitting me hard.  I don't have many friends at all, and he is the only person I really know within the city. 

S is also incredibly selfish.  Every interaction must be on his terms, every meeting will be when he wants.  It was like this in our relationship and is one of the main reasons we broke up.  I wanted to be able to rely on him and to have some emotional support when I needed it, which he could not (or, thinking about it, would not) provide.  

It's hard to be friends with someone who will not do the normal give and take any friendship needs to survive.  It's annoying when he cancels plans vindictively, prioritises things above me or even lies to me about being ill and then is suddenly better later in the day.  I know I am not asking too much to see someone on my schedule, or to have plans made and stuck to.  I am wondering how long I can deal with him being like this before I simply move on.

We did share nearly a year together, and he was my first proper partner.  I am bound to be upset and feel badly about the break up for a while.  I am wondering though how long I will have to torture myself and put myself second in order to try to have a healthy friendship when it would be so much easier to cut him out of my life.

I did not really blog about my relationship, because there was nothing to blog about.  Sex was not really that adventurous or often and S was not as into kink as I was.  The sex we had was average to most people so I did not really see the point of writing about it.  Unemployment, then work and chronic fatigue meant I did not get many review products or contribute much to the on-line communities.  This is a shame as I do enjoy blogging, even if I do not really have any major followings or readerships.

The main thing is that I am healing, and trying to better myself through this process.  I have learnt what works for me and what does not and hopefully I shall feel ready to date again.

Internet dating 101 - or how to date online without looking like a total creep

As I was single for a considerable amount of time I was trying internet dating, for the best part of 2 to 3years.  Through that I have met some great people and some not so great ones, but have found some common themes in the hundreds of profiles I've read and the thousands of messages I've seen and sent.

The topic of creepy people on dating websites has been covered by lots of writers, many who are better and funnier than me. Because of this I'm not going to cover anything like that, but feel free to look around online for examples.One of the things that I never understood about internet dating was how it seems that plenty of polite, people seem to forget their manners and any social skills they have.  What is normal to say on the internet would never be said in any other social realm.

Tip 1 - have an interesting profile with some individual information about yourself

You may love football, beer and going to the gym, but so does everyone else.  That's more or less a staple of online dating profiles. By no means omit this from your statements about yourself, especially if it is an important part of your life - but give me something else to go on.  Say which teams you like, or what beer is your favorite.  Make sure if you are stating things like "I like video games and anime" that you tell me a few titles - so I don't have to waste yours and my time by asking the silly questions first.

Review - Heavy Duty Leather Cuffs

I was lucky enough to win a competition on the
 Sextoys.co.uk forums for these products, which are available to purchase here

The products I got had been sent to Sextoys as a sample so I am unable to comment on the packaging as there was none. 

The cuffs are made of leather and are fairly wide, all the seams on them are glued well and feel quite sturdy for their size.  There's a large buckle on each end of the cuffs which is made of some kind of leather.  The cuffs are easy to put on and take off by yourself - which may be a consideration if you are looking for more inescapable play toys, but for general bedroom fun and self bondage the fact you can set yourself free is a bonus

The cuffs look very similar - Me and S had to take a moment to figure out which set would be which, and assumed that the handcuffs would be the shorter of the set.  This could be a drawback if they're in a drawer and you need quick access to them.

From this point onwards I am going to split the review and talk about the handcuffs and ankle cuffs separately.

Sinful Sunday - Breast Cancer Awareness

This weeks Sinful Sunday is for breast cancer awareness, an important thing to raise awareness of.
Remember to check your breasts, balls and other parts as often as you can. An easy way to remember is to do it on the first day of the month.

Pictures after the jump.