Review - Heavy Duty Leather Cuffs

I was lucky enough to win a competition on the
 Sextoys.co.uk forums for these products, which are available to purchase here

The products I got had been sent to Sextoys as a sample so I am unable to comment on the packaging as there was none. 

The cuffs are made of leather and are fairly wide, all the seams on them are glued well and feel quite sturdy for their size.  There's a large buckle on each end of the cuffs which is made of some kind of leather.  The cuffs are easy to put on and take off by yourself - which may be a consideration if you are looking for more inescapable play toys, but for general bedroom fun and self bondage the fact you can set yourself free is a bonus

The cuffs look very similar - Me and S had to take a moment to figure out which set would be which, and assumed that the handcuffs would be the shorter of the set.  This could be a drawback if they're in a drawer and you need quick access to them.

From this point onwards I am going to split the review and talk about the handcuffs and ankle cuffs separately.

Sinful Sunday - Breast Cancer Awareness

This weeks Sinful Sunday is for breast cancer awareness, an important thing to raise awareness of.
Remember to check your breasts, balls and other parts as often as you can. An easy way to remember is to do it on the first day of the month.

Pictures after the jump.

Barriers

If you've read my previous post you will know I'm in a semi new relationship. You could also probably gather that I am sex mad and love the fact I'm now getting sex more than once a year

Sex has always been something that has been a little impersonal and emotionless to me. This is due to the more casual nature of my hook ups, I don't need to feel emotionally connected to someone to have sex with them on a purely physical level, particuarly when there's no need to help or give that person more pleasure than I want to, which happens a lot with the selfish nature of casual sex. With that in mind there's always a barrier between me and that person, on a psychological level, and also a physical level through the use of condoms.

Since I've not had a steady partner I have always practiced safe sex. Condoms however make things less sensitive, stop the natural flow of events, requires some level of planning and feel horrible. No one really likes condoms, but using them is needed and I have always been careful about it. In a relationship all of this changes of course, provided there's contraception and both parties know they are free of STI's.  Both me and S have tested clean (I have twice - more than three months apart) and feel safe to stop using condoms as a contraceptive method and have no need to use them as an STI prevention due to our poly group being a closed one. (I am on hormonal contraceptives also)

Problem is we both seem to have some emotional significance to the use of condoms.  I have never had sex without condoms, which is good but maybe the reason why it is emotionally significant to me.  It does not feel as close mentally to me using them as it probably will without and it feels like we are making a commitment to each other when we stop using them (this hasn't happened yet - but next time we see each other probably will)

I honestly don't really know how I feel about it. At the moment emotional sex has been pleasant and a lot better than sex I have had with previous partners. It's often times pleasure enough for me to make my partner feel happy or have penetrative sex to just feel close to him.  I don't think much will change without them but only time will really tell!

new beginnings

It's been a while since I posted on here- there's several reasons for it, but I shan't bore you with them when i have something a lot more interesting to discuss!

    

I think I finally have a boyfriend :D

Me and S met about a month ago and have clicked quite well. due to me being unemployed and him being in a non 9 to 5 job we have managed so far to spend quite a bit of time together (this is about to change due to S' new job, but it's not a big deal as we will now have weekends) As it's been such a short amount of time I'm not really sure on things like titles (we don't really need them, but its why i *think* rather than just have)

    

 We share the same interests and some similar hobbies, and just like hanging out together. this last weekend with him i just chilled and watched him play black mesa on steam, happy to be with him.

It is however early days, and although we both feel confident that this is a viable relationship there are some things we need to do more carefully than others due to him (and by extension most likely me in the future) being polyamorous with another (more primary and established) relationship. There's also the fact that I have never had a committed romantic relationships so have nothing to base my experiences on. That however can be a whole other post when I've had time to think about the formats of it and analysed how I feel a little bit more. polyamory is a new type of relationship to me so I'm not the best person to be posting and talking about it.

   

All in all though the thought of spending time with him and actually being with him gives me the warm fuzzies that any relationship should

As a side note I am wondering how readers (if there are any) like the layout and format of the blog, eg the adverts and backgrounds, text formatting and colour scheme.  I'd appreciate some feedback on this as I would like to make this blog the best it can be. I know my spelling and grammar need improvement (which is tricky due to dyslexia) so there is that to work on.

An Introduction to Electro sex.

Electro sex is sexual stimulation with electrical current. When I first heard of it I was a bit dubious and thought that it would be more scary than sexy. A few years on and I am a major fan.

Firstly how electro sex generally works. Small currents are sent around the body by use of insertable toys or self adhesive pads. The currents stimulate nerves which can feel pleasurable. On high settings it can make muscles move. if you have ever used a TENS machine for pain relief the tingling is like that but sexier. ( i know this is a crap description of the sensation and things, but I'm not a scientist and it is such an odd sensation that it is hard to describe)

Electro sex toys are often used in BDSM but can be enjoyed by anyone with an open mind.

Lovehoney's tv adverts

Lovehoney.co.uk will be the first Sex toy company to advertise on daytime television.
this is a great step for a brilliant company, one i have tested for and promote. I promote them not because of the testing, but because it is a company that i like. Always quick and reliable on postage, always discreet and excellent customer service! they have multiple awards for customer satisfaction too.

The television advert can be found here .this is one of the many banners that I expect will be popping up on websites soon



My take on this? the advert is nice and it's subtle so there won't be much of an uproar about it. I just can't help noticing that there is a lot of focus on the actors wedding rings, which i personally don't really feel that there's a need for.

Sex ads have been done before on post watershed television,and some of them have been very memorable. My favorite though has to be the durex bunnies

Wax play

Wax play is one of those things that seems like it would be really painful or unpleasant, but actually feels really really nice.

The feeling of wax dropping on your skin is warm and when in the right setting the anticipation of it is just devine.  Wax hardens and sets and makes your skin tingle and ache, even the slightest touch then becomes a turn on.  What is especially nice is having the wax run down the pussy lips or skin and feeling it harden and set.

There's a visual aspect too -  when sensory deprevation is used it can be really interesting waiting for the next drop of wax and wondering where it could be and when it's coming.  Using different coloured waxes can give nice effects and in the right situations can look very artistic.

There is some basic saftey involved in wax play.  The higher the candle is away from the body the cooler the wax will be.  Cheaper candles tend to burn cooler as well. NEVER use beesewax or tea light candles as they burn hot enough to give serious burns. Always check that the person  who is having wax on them is comfortable and safe.

If in doubt there are plenty of Bondage candle sets available from places like lovehoney.
 If wax isn't your thing you can always experiment with the temperature and sensation using massage candles, which are more warm oil than a hardening wax


last but not least: this is what wax play can look like ( NSFW)