Sex is like many things in life in that it sometimes does not go according to plan. Many of is have grown up with an idealized version of sex. He's always able to get hard and she's always wet, everyone can always come and it's always enjoyable, your partner has the same level of sex drive that you do and they are always ready to go. We know life isn't like this, but sometimes we can still get stressed out when things don't go to plan and make a situation worse. I'm going to run through a few of the more common hurdles to sex and what can be done to make them less of an issue. I've tried to make the advice as applicable to all relationship types as possible, but it may have a hetronormative slant, so read on after the jump!
Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
Wednesday, 11 December 2013
Wednesday, 27 November 2013
Submission
I am submissive - it's part of who I am and what I like. I've know I've been submissive since before I knew I was bisexual, or even before I knew if I liked sex.
Everyone's submission is personal to them and everybody gets different things out of BDSM. For me submission isn't a particularly erotic experience, for me it's more a state of relaxation and calmness that lends itself to sex and a few very easy orgasms. Some people submit without ever doing bondage or masochism and others cannot easily distinguish between the elements.
My submission is personal and trusting, it bonds me to the person I am submitting and letting go to. It is me - completely and honestly me at my most vulnerable. I am a person who needs to control situations, to have influence and decide my own life - letting go of this is in no way easy and i need the dominant in my life to *know* this
Submission for me is not about pushing my limits of pain. I do enjoy some spanking and corporal stuff but often if things hurt too much they can take me out of the zone. I can't do extended rope bondage scenes in uncomfortable positions due to poor mobility and joint issues - bondage and restraint has to be simple and effective as well as easy to get out of.
Submission has a lot of mental elements for me. I like being tickled - and I quite like it when people are threatening to tickle me and don't actually do it. Doc has this down to a fine art - in that he will put his hands on me without tickling, causing me to constantly think he is going to do something. mental games such as this are very much my thing, as well as name calling and talking dirty - being told I am owned by someone or a dirty whore and a filthy slut makes me hot.
I have a slightly weird tell for when I am feeling subby, that no one who has witnessed it or I have told about it has seen before. I get really giggly and laugh a lot which can confuse partners, and there is often a time where I have to explain through my giggles that I laugh loads when I become very submissive and into the zone. This doesn't just happen during foreplay and scenes, and can happen when I am kissing someone or even during more or less vanilla sex. It's strange but easy enough to hide when I am in public.
submission is awesome, and I wouldn't change it for the world!
Monday, 25 November 2013
Rough Sex
Being with a new partner is awesome in that you can do things that you have never tried before or other partners were not keen on. I love rough sex and being treated roughly, it makes me feel all subby and enhances the sensations. Sometimes it's the only thing I want and I will struggle to orgasm without it. I love being bitten, as part of foreplay but especially when a partner is inside of me - during missionary or facing positions, feeling him fucking me hard and biting my breasts is exquisite. Rough sex can lead to slight injury. After a few amazing sessions with Doc I have ended up with bruises on my boobs! This wasn't a planned thing, but it wasn't painful and we both saw the funny side of it.
Rough sex is only really doable when you both know you like it. It's also an aspect of sex where you need good communication between each other, as there is sometimes a fine line between good hurt and bad hurt. Try gentle things first and then get rougher if you both like it - generally the more turned on a person gets the more pain they can endure and enjoy. The traffic light system is also a good idea. Green for "more/harder" yellow for "stay at that level" and red for "stop right now"
Simple things to try are gentle biting and slapping, pinching, pulling hair and ordering your partner around. If you had cheap or unwanted old clothes you could also try ripping them off of each other!
Have fun, experiment and communicate to have some mind blowing rough sex!
*side note* I am experimenting with scheduled posts so that my writing becomes slightly more regular - this may mean there are some glitches while I try and figure stuff out so please bear with me!
Friday, 22 November 2013
Anal adventures and complicated relationships
Anal sex is something that I have never tried very much and have never been curious about. I have owned butt plugs and anal beads in the past but didnt use them more than once or twice because I didn't get much enjoyment out of them.
When Junior and I started discussing the opportunity of being fuck buddies he mentioned that he liked anal sex, and that he would like it, but wasnt fussed if I didn't want to do it. He understood my reasons not to - the time it takes to prepare, the potential mess and the planning involved that breaks the mood.
All my reasons were mental blocks, more than me purley not liking anal sex, as I had never tried it with a partner before. During my dalliances with Junior I have broken some of the mental blocks about other things, such as not liking semen inside me for too long and having to have things to clean off with instantly.
I got thinking of anal sex, and how it would play out between me and him, suggesting that we try it. The idea kinda sat there for a while with both of us and we didn't try it the next time we saw each other, I thought he had forgotten about it. Junior is awesome in many ways, but at this stage is not comfortable leading and initiating things which I expected him to with this due to being the one who has had anal before. Once we got going with it I found out that anal is really pleasurable for me, that I get turned on at the idea of someone taking me and owning me in such a way, that it feels dirty and wrong and taboo. Anal sex for me is about trusting someone so completely and letting them take over my body.
I like breaking the mental barriers I have placed on myself, it wasn't painful, there was very little preparation needed and if there was any mess, Junior was a gentleman and did not let me see it. Sex between me and him is awesome and I really don't want it to stop!
However things are getting more complicated between us. This isn't bad - we seem to be doing a lot of couple-y stuff like me meeting his friends, and spending a lot of time together just cuddling and being in each others company. I wouldn't necessarily change this for anything as it is leaving me happy and fulfilled but sometimes it is a little confusing. We are communicating with each other about it clearly, and feel the same which is good. New relationship energy gets the better of me sometimes and makes me want to push things further than they should be - so I have to check myself to stop me from doing something silly. it's not particularly stressing me out at the moment and I don't think it will be. I'm just really happy to be getting fucked regularly and to be trying new things!
As an aside I will be changing Juniors nickname to Doc - as he does not like the current one!
Sunday, 3 November 2013
Introducing Junior
I have a new fuck buddy! Its so satisfying and I'm happy that I am desired and wanted again by someone. He is nicknamed Junior because he works in medicine, and thought it was a good nickname when I suggested it. We met on- line through a dating website and like each other, but it seems at the moment that we could probably piss each other off if we tried dating.
Junior found the blog before we even met through some Internet searching, which still seems a bit creepy to me. I know this is public and not that hidden and it's not a big deal that he found it, but it'd be different if it were someone who was not romantically connected to me.
We've met and had sex a few times now, though I would prefer it if we met more than weekly - but with his schedule and me working a standard 9 to 5 it isn't possible. The only problem is the more sex I have the more I want it! The sex has been generally good, were more or less at the stage where we are getting used to each other and I know it will only get better.
Junior is adorable in his little worries - during one of our sessions I was playing with him and talking dirty before we had some penetration and he was worried that he didn't last that long! He gets nervous and I don't think he is used to having a partner who will talk so openly and honest about sex with him. The first time we had sex was a little awkward and we were taking a break when I put some porn on to show him what kind of things I liked. He had never had a partner who has been so open about their habits, or has watched porn with him.
It's not just the sex that is good, there's lots of cuddles and I always end up leaving his feeling all loved up because of the dopamine and chemicals released. I really hope that this lasts for such a long time!
Junior found the blog before we even met through some Internet searching, which still seems a bit creepy to me. I know this is public and not that hidden and it's not a big deal that he found it, but it'd be different if it were someone who was not romantically connected to me.
We've met and had sex a few times now, though I would prefer it if we met more than weekly - but with his schedule and me working a standard 9 to 5 it isn't possible. The only problem is the more sex I have the more I want it! The sex has been generally good, were more or less at the stage where we are getting used to each other and I know it will only get better.
Junior is adorable in his little worries - during one of our sessions I was playing with him and talking dirty before we had some penetration and he was worried that he didn't last that long! He gets nervous and I don't think he is used to having a partner who will talk so openly and honest about sex with him. The first time we had sex was a little awkward and we were taking a break when I put some porn on to show him what kind of things I liked. He had never had a partner who has been so open about their habits, or has watched porn with him.
It's not just the sex that is good, there's lots of cuddles and I always end up leaving his feeling all loved up because of the dopamine and chemicals released. I really hope that this lasts for such a long time!
Saturday, 6 October 2012
Barriers
If you've read my previous post you will know I'm in a semi new relationship. You could also probably gather that I am sex mad and love the fact I'm now getting sex more than once a year
Sex has always been something that has been a little impersonal and emotionless to me. This is due to the more casual nature of my hook ups, I don't need to feel emotionally connected to someone to have sex with them on a purely physical level, particuarly when there's no need to help or give that person more pleasure than I want to, which happens a lot with the selfish nature of casual sex. With that in mind there's always a barrier between me and that person, on a psychological level, and also a physical level through the use of condoms.
Since I've not had a steady partner I have always practiced safe sex. Condoms however make things less sensitive, stop the natural flow of events, requires some level of planning and feel horrible. No one really likes condoms, but using them is needed and I have always been careful about it. In a relationship all of this changes of course, provided there's contraception and both parties know they are free of STI's. Both me and S have tested clean (I have twice - more than three months apart) and feel safe to stop using condoms as a contraceptive method and have no need to use them as an STI prevention due to our poly group being a closed one. (I am on hormonal contraceptives also)
Problem is we both seem to have some emotional significance to the use of condoms. I have never had sex without condoms, which is good but maybe the reason why it is emotionally significant to me. It does not feel as close mentally to me using them as it probably will without and it feels like we are making a commitment to each other when we stop using them (this hasn't happened yet - but next time we see each other probably will)
I honestly don't really know how I feel about it. At the moment emotional sex has been pleasant and a lot better than sex I have had with previous partners. It's often times pleasure enough for me to make my partner feel happy or have penetrative sex to just feel close to him. I don't think much will change without them but only time will really tell!
Sunday, 1 May 2011
Hypersexuality and exams.
As any of you who read reguarly will know i have what I consider a healthy sex drive.
The only thing that I am not particuarly happy with is what happens to me when I go through times of stress or unhappyness.
When I feel stressed or unhappy I find that great relief comes from sexual release, be it sex or masturbation. It becomes a greater need than usual and I find myself preoccupied with masturbation, so much so that it becomes a distraction from everyday life and things that i should be doing to deal with the situation at hand.
It's easy to deal with though, through self imposed celibacy. I am approaching the final exams of my university career, and as expected it is a time of stress and i am constantly as horny as hell. This is the first time I've tried celibacy it has got me thinking about how my situation is quite fortunate at the moment. Celibacy isn't too hard to do while i am single, it's simply a case of self restraint, and it's only my needs that suffer. It would become so much trickier to deal with the hypersexual stage if I was in a relationship, as it would become an issue to me if my partner suffered because of my actions.
Being celibate for this time isn't proving too difficult. It's only a week or so untill my exams are over, and im finding that I am focusing much more than I usually do when undertaking university work and revision. it feels quite empowering to be free of the urges, but not something I want to do for a longer period than a week!
Posting may be a bit irregular over the next few weeks or so because of exams and moving and all the other things related to the end of a university year.
The only thing that I am not particuarly happy with is what happens to me when I go through times of stress or unhappyness.
When I feel stressed or unhappy I find that great relief comes from sexual release, be it sex or masturbation. It becomes a greater need than usual and I find myself preoccupied with masturbation, so much so that it becomes a distraction from everyday life and things that i should be doing to deal with the situation at hand.
It's easy to deal with though, through self imposed celibacy. I am approaching the final exams of my university career, and as expected it is a time of stress and i am constantly as horny as hell. This is the first time I've tried celibacy it has got me thinking about how my situation is quite fortunate at the moment. Celibacy isn't too hard to do while i am single, it's simply a case of self restraint, and it's only my needs that suffer. It would become so much trickier to deal with the hypersexual stage if I was in a relationship, as it would become an issue to me if my partner suffered because of my actions.
Being celibate for this time isn't proving too difficult. It's only a week or so untill my exams are over, and im finding that I am focusing much more than I usually do when undertaking university work and revision. it feels quite empowering to be free of the urges, but not something I want to do for a longer period than a week!
Posting may be a bit irregular over the next few weeks or so because of exams and moving and all the other things related to the end of a university year.
Saturday, 12 February 2011
Fuck buddies
I've had a fuck buddy in the past, when i was 18 i lost my virginity to the Canadian, after which we decided to just have casual sex. To be honest i would absolutley adore having another relationship like this. Sex with the canadian was boring, vanilla and very selfish on his behalf. Another fuck buddy like that would be pointless, but i can see the attraction in getting sex and being satisfied without the emotional baggage of a relationship! I am wiser than i was then, so its a certainty that i wouldn't put up with such crap.
I am, at the moment trying to find a long term committed partner ( as in a boy/girlfriend) but it gets really tricky when it comes down to the fact that i am highly sexed and i do worry sometimes that being so open and honest with those i meet can be a little off putting.
It's a theory of mine that just having regular sex with someone might make it a little easier to meet someone and not want to fuck their brains out just 'cause im desperatley horny and haven't got laid in a long time. It would also help me feel a lot less frustrated in life in general.
I struggle to find a fuck buddy however, as my confidence is zero. I'm not the kinda person to go out to a bar and pull, never have been and never will be. Even online dating has more nuances and subtleteys than i can understand. When it comes to relationships and seduction my method is usually outright asking "wanna fuck" which dosen't seem to work that well! yes there are dating sites purley for fuck buddies or casual sex, but to me most of them seem a little seedy so i tend to avoid them.
For me emotions don't factor into sex. I can start a relationship with someone knowing that they don't really care for me, nor I for them and be fine. Its when a relationship starts out as "we will date" and then turns into something casual that gives me issues. I guess my emotions are like a tap. If its off its off and won't turn itself on of its own volition. but if its on then turning it off becomes tricky.
I am, at the moment trying to find a long term committed partner ( as in a boy/girlfriend) but it gets really tricky when it comes down to the fact that i am highly sexed and i do worry sometimes that being so open and honest with those i meet can be a little off putting.
It's a theory of mine that just having regular sex with someone might make it a little easier to meet someone and not want to fuck their brains out just 'cause im desperatley horny and haven't got laid in a long time. It would also help me feel a lot less frustrated in life in general.
I struggle to find a fuck buddy however, as my confidence is zero. I'm not the kinda person to go out to a bar and pull, never have been and never will be. Even online dating has more nuances and subtleteys than i can understand. When it comes to relationships and seduction my method is usually outright asking "wanna fuck" which dosen't seem to work that well! yes there are dating sites purley for fuck buddies or casual sex, but to me most of them seem a little seedy so i tend to avoid them.
For me emotions don't factor into sex. I can start a relationship with someone knowing that they don't really care for me, nor I for them and be fine. Its when a relationship starts out as "we will date" and then turns into something casual that gives me issues. I guess my emotions are like a tap. If its off its off and won't turn itself on of its own volition. but if its on then turning it off becomes tricky.
Wednesday, 29 December 2010
squirting
squirting is always somthing that ive found sexy and hot when ive seen it in porn and described by others but i just can't seem to do it!
i do have a g spot, and i can feel it ( when its described by people they say it feels like the roof of your mouth, but i think personally it feels a bit like the head of a cock more than that) and others can feel it too. at least toyboy could when we had (disasterous) sex. Unfortunatley my g spot is just out of reach of my fingers, and i have no toys that seem to help me at all at the moment.
I do have the fun factory delight which is in the post, and yet to arrive as i only ordered it a few days ago.
and i have this thing, which is unfortunatley too soft to find my G spot.
Its one of the things ive wanted to see if i can do for a while, so if you have any hints and tips i'd be keen to know!
i do have a g spot, and i can feel it ( when its described by people they say it feels like the roof of your mouth, but i think personally it feels a bit like the head of a cock more than that) and others can feel it too. at least toyboy could when we had (disasterous) sex. Unfortunatley my g spot is just out of reach of my fingers, and i have no toys that seem to help me at all at the moment.
I do have the fun factory delight which is in the post, and yet to arrive as i only ordered it a few days ago.
and i have this thing, which is unfortunatley too soft to find my G spot.
Its one of the things ive wanted to see if i can do for a while, so if you have any hints and tips i'd be keen to know!
Sunday, 19 December 2010
mixed blessings
so, i finally got laid :D
however it wasn't that special, and it wont happen again ( boo)
I met a man online who attends uni in Cambridge ( will be known as toyboy cause he's a bit younger than me) , and was looking to have a relationship, so we met up a fair few times and then i stayed the night.
A lot of mind fuckery was involved in this relationship, with the benefit of hindsight its not perfect and i know now there is no chance of a relationship as a BF/GF thing.
so there we were laid on his single bed squashed together, skin on skin kissing roughly and passionately. I pull my leg around his side and grind myself into him, his cock all ready hard. he grabs me and shifts us both round on the bed so that he's on top of me and starts sucking and licking my nipples hard. i moan in pleasure and find his big cock ( the largest I've ever had. i struggle to wrap my hand around it when hes fully errect) and wank him off with one hand while stroking my clit with the other.
he stops licking my nipples and slides his fingers into my wet pussy, rubbing my g spot giving me amasing sensations as i stroke his cock. I shudder to orgasm as he continues fingering my pussy. I find some condoms ( large ones) and he lets me put it on him.
sliding his cock into my pussy felt Divine, stretching and filling me up so well, and his thrusting bringing me closer to orgasm. he stops suddenly, he's come as well, which was kind of anti climatic as i was so near again.
toyboy had explained that he wouldn't last long because of "first night nerves" but i didn't really expect it would be as quick as it was. I had come though so it wasn't all lost.
What happened next made me feel fucking awful. the moment he came he rolled over and accused me of pressuring him into sex, and that he hadn't wanted it. If you read my blog regularly you know that i hate the absence of consent and i would never do something like that! In hindsight i shouldn't have had sex with him knowing full well the amount of mind fuckery he willingly employs and that it was more than likely to turn out like this.
toyboy seems to enjoy relying on the "suffering creative type" cliche that people employ to avoid any responsibility they have over their actions and how they treat others. and i fell for it, hook line and sinker. what a fool I am.
Sometimes i feat i will never find a partner who's, dependable, honest and sincere or get regular, satisfying sex!
however it wasn't that special, and it wont happen again ( boo)
I met a man online who attends uni in Cambridge ( will be known as toyboy cause he's a bit younger than me) , and was looking to have a relationship, so we met up a fair few times and then i stayed the night.
A lot of mind fuckery was involved in this relationship, with the benefit of hindsight its not perfect and i know now there is no chance of a relationship as a BF/GF thing.
so there we were laid on his single bed squashed together, skin on skin kissing roughly and passionately. I pull my leg around his side and grind myself into him, his cock all ready hard. he grabs me and shifts us both round on the bed so that he's on top of me and starts sucking and licking my nipples hard. i moan in pleasure and find his big cock ( the largest I've ever had. i struggle to wrap my hand around it when hes fully errect) and wank him off with one hand while stroking my clit with the other.
he stops licking my nipples and slides his fingers into my wet pussy, rubbing my g spot giving me amasing sensations as i stroke his cock. I shudder to orgasm as he continues fingering my pussy. I find some condoms ( large ones) and he lets me put it on him.
sliding his cock into my pussy felt Divine, stretching and filling me up so well, and his thrusting bringing me closer to orgasm. he stops suddenly, he's come as well, which was kind of anti climatic as i was so near again.
toyboy had explained that he wouldn't last long because of "first night nerves" but i didn't really expect it would be as quick as it was. I had come though so it wasn't all lost.
What happened next made me feel fucking awful. the moment he came he rolled over and accused me of pressuring him into sex, and that he hadn't wanted it. If you read my blog regularly you know that i hate the absence of consent and i would never do something like that! In hindsight i shouldn't have had sex with him knowing full well the amount of mind fuckery he willingly employs and that it was more than likely to turn out like this.
toyboy seems to enjoy relying on the "suffering creative type" cliche that people employ to avoid any responsibility they have over their actions and how they treat others. and i fell for it, hook line and sinker. what a fool I am.
Sometimes i feat i will never find a partner who's, dependable, honest and sincere or get regular, satisfying sex!
Monday, 30 August 2010
Monday, 12 July 2010
sex ( or lack thereof)
what to write about?
other than the fact i have not had sex in so long and i don't think i will get any soon there's nothing really thrilling going on in my life. the heat affects my health ( dyspraxia and joint issues flare up in really hot and really cold climates)
i keep fantasising about some really hot rough sex too which does not help as it makes me so horny.
i want someone to bite my nipples and drag rough hands and scratchy stubble across my skin, alighting my desire. I want to feel those hands against my clit and vulva, rough and demanding. forcing me to come hard and fast and expecting nothing else.
i want my head forced into the pillows, my hips pulled up and a cock pushed into me hard and fast, demanding and wanting instead of needing. i want to hear balls slapping against my ass, a thick cock filling, fucking and stretching me. i want to feel that cock so deep inside me throbbing and pulsing with desire, to feel hot come shooting deep inside me and my orgasm thanking him for treating me like the little slut i am. i want to feel that heady mix of satisfied and tired that comes after fantastic sex!
other than the fact i have not had sex in so long and i don't think i will get any soon there's nothing really thrilling going on in my life. the heat affects my health ( dyspraxia and joint issues flare up in really hot and really cold climates)
i keep fantasising about some really hot rough sex too which does not help as it makes me so horny.
i want someone to bite my nipples and drag rough hands and scratchy stubble across my skin, alighting my desire. I want to feel those hands against my clit and vulva, rough and demanding. forcing me to come hard and fast and expecting nothing else.
i want my head forced into the pillows, my hips pulled up and a cock pushed into me hard and fast, demanding and wanting instead of needing. i want to hear balls slapping against my ass, a thick cock filling, fucking and stretching me. i want to feel that cock so deep inside me throbbing and pulsing with desire, to feel hot come shooting deep inside me and my orgasm thanking him for treating me like the little slut i am. i want to feel that heady mix of satisfied and tired that comes after fantastic sex!
Tuesday, 30 March 2010
phone sex.
that northern Irish accented deep voice, my heavy breathing. it can only mean one thing. " i want to see this on your blog slut" i hear, my fingers working my clit. "yes master" if only you were with me, stood in front of me while I'm kneeling, watching you stroke your cock ready to come on my face. properly make me your cum slut just like we both know i will be. taking your cock in my mouth, sucking, licking and teasing you till you cant stand any more. with every fibre in my body i want to suck you till you come over and over several times a day. I don't think you realise just how much i love the silky feel of a warm throbbing cock on my lips and the ooze of pre come showing me how much you like it. the feel of your thighs and arse cheeks under my nails. even how it feels to have your ass clench around my fingers as i massage your prostate, hoping upon hope you come harder than ever before right down my throat. Loving the feeling of your hot cum splash across my face and neck, your hand on my jaw and feeling the head of your cock smear the result of my frantic sucking and licking of you across me. but that's not the end.
you pinning me onto the bed, your fingers finding their way deep inside me, hitting my g spot, your other hand holding me down, knowing when the time comes i will shake and moan so hard for you. trying to make me squirt all over your hands and maybe even into your mouth will be so brilliant I can hardly wait. Just the thought of having your cock inside me, filling me with your come makes me so wet and horny.
you tease me on the phone, telling me how your hands will find my pussy and clit through my jeans, you holding me across my neck, whispering into my ear as i get wetter and closer and closer to coming. your fingers inside me and your thumb pressing upon my clit making me more and more horny until i am on the edge of orgasm. you stop, cruelly laughing into my ears, taking your fingers from inside me and smearing my pussy juices across my face. making me go out to the shop or on some menial errand with my come all over my face...
upon my return kissing me frantically checking that I haven't wiped my juices from my face and that i am being a good little slut. just the threatening of an undisclosed punishment gets me going so much. irregardless of if it is going to be pleasant or not.
I need you now, your cock, your lips, to feel the breath on my ear and neck as you talk dirty to me would be just Divine.
you pinning me onto the bed, your fingers finding their way deep inside me, hitting my g spot, your other hand holding me down, knowing when the time comes i will shake and moan so hard for you. trying to make me squirt all over your hands and maybe even into your mouth will be so brilliant I can hardly wait. Just the thought of having your cock inside me, filling me with your come makes me so wet and horny.
you tease me on the phone, telling me how your hands will find my pussy and clit through my jeans, you holding me across my neck, whispering into my ear as i get wetter and closer and closer to coming. your fingers inside me and your thumb pressing upon my clit making me more and more horny until i am on the edge of orgasm. you stop, cruelly laughing into my ears, taking your fingers from inside me and smearing my pussy juices across my face. making me go out to the shop or on some menial errand with my come all over my face...
upon my return kissing me frantically checking that I haven't wiped my juices from my face and that i am being a good little slut. just the threatening of an undisclosed punishment gets me going so much. irregardless of if it is going to be pleasant or not.
I need you now, your cock, your lips, to feel the breath on my ear and neck as you talk dirty to me would be just Divine.
Wednesday, 24 March 2010
an update
just a quick blog as I'm away over the bank holiday weekend.
b.b is still texting and teasing me and it feels so great at the moment.
As i am a giant sadist i got the April issue of "Company" magazine. It's all about "bloggers" though most of it is about women who somehow are magically empowering every female by writing about fashion or something else totally insignificant in the bigger picture. It could mean so much more if you featured strong independent women who blogged about politics or philosophy or something other than "this dress is so pretty lolz". There's some mention about sex blogging and the obligatory article by "belle de jour" in there about how blogging is so liberating and "kinky". Then overleaf there's a 3 page article on "can a blog get you a boyfriend" and how its all super and dandy to blog about any potential date you have. This may sound hypocitical as I myself blog about b.b and the sub boy but i don't really think its all that important. they both know about this blog, and both read it and like that other people know these things, i just think it gets unfair when your potential paramour has no idea about you blogging, and when you use full christian names. Yes you can do it if you wish, but don't think for one second people are desperate to know how the date you went on was, or anything like that. There's extracts from the writers blog in the article, and it just reads like some whinging self piteous stuff that should remain in a teenage diary, not all over the Internet. Never use names, never expect readers to pity you, and above all else never ever expect anything good to come from writing a blog!
there is also a heck of a lot of other prattle in the generic "women's monthly" magazine styles. they even go as far in the "sealed shocking STI" section to try and say that there's "his and hers STD's". last time i checked herpes wasn't gender exclusive..
There is also a main article on "Saturday night sexism" about the club scene and how women are "at risk" of lewd comments from drunken men. Company then have a quote form a women's advocate quickly blaming the lad's mags and television for treating women like objects. but its all quickly forgotten in the back pages of the "e flirt" section! its over sensationalised fear mongering to rival the daily mail! I've been out plenty of times and yes, I've seen it happen sometimes, but I've also seen a lot of women groping and fondling men and acting inappropriately. women are not some needy victims that the article portrays and it just annoys me!
the other parts i have issues with are more subtle and could be lost in nuances. One article by company's "blogger of the year" suggests that you flirt like mad to get what you want, and also suggests you get a rich partner so you can use them "like a credit card". yes, its supposed to be humorous, but there is still this thinly veiled ideals there that do not sit easily with me!
Another piece in the advice column states that the readers new partner should cut all ties with his best friend because she used to be his fuck buddy. this one annoys me because of the presumption that its inevitable that he'll cheat on the girlfriend (um hello? self restraint!)
heh i guess I'm a bit more of a sadist than i guessed.
b.b is still texting and teasing me and it feels so great at the moment.
As i am a giant sadist i got the April issue of "Company" magazine. It's all about "bloggers" though most of it is about women who somehow are magically empowering every female by writing about fashion or something else totally insignificant in the bigger picture. It could mean so much more if you featured strong independent women who blogged about politics or philosophy or something other than "this dress is so pretty lolz". There's some mention about sex blogging and the obligatory article by "belle de jour" in there about how blogging is so liberating and "kinky". Then overleaf there's a 3 page article on "can a blog get you a boyfriend" and how its all super and dandy to blog about any potential date you have. This may sound hypocitical as I myself blog about b.b and the sub boy but i don't really think its all that important. they both know about this blog, and both read it and like that other people know these things, i just think it gets unfair when your potential paramour has no idea about you blogging, and when you use full christian names. Yes you can do it if you wish, but don't think for one second people are desperate to know how the date you went on was, or anything like that. There's extracts from the writers blog in the article, and it just reads like some whinging self piteous stuff that should remain in a teenage diary, not all over the Internet. Never use names, never expect readers to pity you, and above all else never ever expect anything good to come from writing a blog!
there is also a heck of a lot of other prattle in the generic "women's monthly" magazine styles. they even go as far in the "sealed shocking STI" section to try and say that there's "his and hers STD's". last time i checked herpes wasn't gender exclusive..
There is also a main article on "Saturday night sexism" about the club scene and how women are "at risk" of lewd comments from drunken men. Company then have a quote form a women's advocate quickly blaming the lad's mags and television for treating women like objects. but its all quickly forgotten in the back pages of the "e flirt" section! its over sensationalised fear mongering to rival the daily mail! I've been out plenty of times and yes, I've seen it happen sometimes, but I've also seen a lot of women groping and fondling men and acting inappropriately. women are not some needy victims that the article portrays and it just annoys me!
the other parts i have issues with are more subtle and could be lost in nuances. One article by company's "blogger of the year" suggests that you flirt like mad to get what you want, and also suggests you get a rich partner so you can use them "like a credit card". yes, its supposed to be humorous, but there is still this thinly veiled ideals there that do not sit easily with me!
Another piece in the advice column states that the readers new partner should cut all ties with his best friend because she used to be his fuck buddy. this one annoys me because of the presumption that its inevitable that he'll cheat on the girlfriend (um hello? self restraint!)
heh i guess I'm a bit more of a sadist than i guessed.
Saturday, 20 March 2010
anal adventures
I have never had full penetrative anal sex with a partner, but it sure sounds an amazing thing to do. Belfast Boy teases me over the phone a lot, the thought of his hot come dripping out of my ass and onto my thighs sends us both wild!
This afternoon i had my first foray into the world of anal sex toys.
following various advice from different sources ( but mainly lovehoney's user forums) i purchased my first toys, and a douche. firstly i tried the douche which was tricky to use, i must admit as it was solo play i skipped this part, i knew from past times when id used my fingers it wasn't too messy, if at all. then came the fun part...
I started with the basics slimline butt buddy, which is a lovely little ( and i do mean little) toy, which slid in with no problems whatsoever when coated in some water based lube. this did feel nice, but it wasn't too thrilling for me personally, especially as I'm working up to being able to take Belfast boys gorgeous cock in my ass. After relaxing a little and having the basic toy inside me, i moved onto the bigger glass toy i treated myself to. This toy is stunning to look at with its swirls and paint, and feels so amazing in the hand, little but weighty it feels Divine sliding inside me too. It took a lot longer sliding this toy into me, but with patience and waiting before sliding deeper i took it into me. then the phone rang.. damn.
in any other circumstance this would be such a passion killer it would have been game over. but it was Belfast Boy, calling after my sexy picture taking of me wearing a ball gag. i told him what state i was in, how I had a toy in my ass and just wishing it was his cock instead, or he could be here sliding his fingers in and out of my pussy, with his cock in my mouth filling me so deliciously. with his sexy accented voice telling me what he will do to me down the phone and the plug inside me, i worked my fingers on my clit, and came harder than i have in a long time
It is kind of weird, that i felt my ass contract around the plug when i came. it felt like a different kind of orgasm too, i felt satisfied as usual, but i felt this eery calmness and weariness fall over me. so much so i almost forgot Belfast boy on the other end of the phone. one things for certain, i didn't make much sense after that.
This afternoon i had my first foray into the world of anal sex toys.
following various advice from different sources ( but mainly lovehoney's user forums) i purchased my first toys, and a douche. firstly i tried the douche which was tricky to use, i must admit as it was solo play i skipped this part, i knew from past times when id used my fingers it wasn't too messy, if at all. then came the fun part...
I started with the basics slimline butt buddy, which is a lovely little ( and i do mean little) toy, which slid in with no problems whatsoever when coated in some water based lube. this did feel nice, but it wasn't too thrilling for me personally, especially as I'm working up to being able to take Belfast boys gorgeous cock in my ass. After relaxing a little and having the basic toy inside me, i moved onto the bigger glass toy i treated myself to. This toy is stunning to look at with its swirls and paint, and feels so amazing in the hand, little but weighty it feels Divine sliding inside me too. It took a lot longer sliding this toy into me, but with patience and waiting before sliding deeper i took it into me. then the phone rang.. damn.
in any other circumstance this would be such a passion killer it would have been game over. but it was Belfast Boy, calling after my sexy picture taking of me wearing a ball gag. i told him what state i was in, how I had a toy in my ass and just wishing it was his cock instead, or he could be here sliding his fingers in and out of my pussy, with his cock in my mouth filling me so deliciously. with his sexy accented voice telling me what he will do to me down the phone and the plug inside me, i worked my fingers on my clit, and came harder than i have in a long time
It is kind of weird, that i felt my ass contract around the plug when i came. it felt like a different kind of orgasm too, i felt satisfied as usual, but i felt this eery calmness and weariness fall over me. so much so i almost forgot Belfast boy on the other end of the phone. one things for certain, i didn't make much sense after that.
Wednesday, 17 March 2010
Sexy soundtracks
Music has always been a very important part of my life, and in this is a key ingredient for setting the mood for me.
I’m a romantic deep down (very deep!) and I tend to love music that takes a twist on the usual soppy romantic ballad. I’m not the kind of person who goes all gooey listening to Robbie Williams or Aerosmith, but there’s definitely a subtle kind of weird melancholic romance in the cure and Leonard Cohen songs that appeal to me.
Hallelujah is just so hauntingly beautiful (the Cohen version) and “so long, Marianne” is a great song too. “just like heaven” by the cure has to be one of my favourite songs and has romantic connotations. Nine inch nails “closer” is one of the LH forums peeps favourite sexy songs, for obvious reasons! “Forever” by papa Roach is romantic to me with the lines “Because days, come and go, but my feelings for you are forever”. Evanescences “breathe no more” is a haunting, sad yet romantic song. Least I think it is peronally.
One of my favourite bands of all time is HIM, they describe themselves as “love metal” and most their music is on romantic themes. On their latest album my favourite song has to be “the foreboding sense of impending happiness” which I can’t find the album version of on YouTube. “killing loneliness” is another firm favourite and is on the bands myspace here
so do you have any favourite sexy songs? I’d love to hear them and add to my playlist.
I’m a romantic deep down (very deep!) and I tend to love music that takes a twist on the usual soppy romantic ballad. I’m not the kind of person who goes all gooey listening to Robbie Williams or Aerosmith, but there’s definitely a subtle kind of weird melancholic romance in the cure and Leonard Cohen songs that appeal to me.
Hallelujah is just so hauntingly beautiful (the Cohen version) and “so long, Marianne” is a great song too. “just like heaven” by the cure has to be one of my favourite songs and has romantic connotations. Nine inch nails “closer” is one of the LH forums peeps favourite sexy songs, for obvious reasons! “Forever” by papa Roach is romantic to me with the lines “Because days, come and go, but my feelings for you are forever”. Evanescences “breathe no more” is a haunting, sad yet romantic song. Least I think it is peronally.
One of my favourite bands of all time is HIM, they describe themselves as “love metal” and most their music is on romantic themes. On their latest album my favourite song has to be “the foreboding sense of impending happiness” which I can’t find the album version of on YouTube. “killing loneliness” is another firm favourite and is on the bands myspace here
so do you have any favourite sexy songs? I’d love to hear them and add to my playlist.
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